No Safe Places
by Don Myers
I sat there stunned. Steve had been licensed through my instruction. I had been to a couple of activities that he and his mother attended - in both cases they were armed. I knew Steve's mother believed as I do that you never go anywhere unarmed if it is legal to carry in those places. I did not know Steve as well as I did his mother, but I found him to be very likable and smart. In fact, I later discovered that he was probably a genius. Of course after getting that terrible news, I couldn't help wonder if he was armed that night. I assume that he wasn't because of the deadly results of his encounter with two heartless thugs. Both criminals were captured the next day. A television interview showed that one of them was almost proud of what they had done. Apparently, he is feeling good about being a "gangsta" now."
I attended Steve's funeral wishing that I could ask if Steve had been armed that awful night, but knew it would be totally inappropriate to ask such an insensitive question. After the funeral service was over, I watched as the ushers allowed the family members to leave the sanctuary first. I couldn't help notice that Steve's mother and sister were carrying handbags made of nylon that were an odd shape. Of course, it was obvious to me why they were carrying those bags and what was in them.
I waited my turn to give condolences to Steve's mother. Then as I approached her, she said in a voice that was a mixture of crying and disbelief, "Don, Steve didn't have his gun! He always carries his gun! When he comes to my house, he has his gun on him under his shirt. He doesn't go anywhere without his gun! Don, he didn't have his gun! In fact, when the police were telling me about the shooting, I asked them where Steve's gun was. They said that they had not found his gun so I told them that the criminals have it. Later, we found it at his home."
I was sick. The tragedy was bad enough, but for him to be killed on one of the few nights where he had forgotten to take his gun seemed to rub salt into the wounds of those of us who cared for him. I am always amazed at how many people who have taken my CHL class do not carry all the time. Some almost never carry a pistol. And yet, here was a case where someone who practically always heeded my advice to be armed at all times was killed while the others who continue to walk around in an un-armed condition, in a mental state of white, don't pay the price that Steve did. No, I don't want those others to pay that price. It's just that they are more likely to be hurt or killed than those who do carry where it is legal. The irony cannot be ignored.
One of the reasons that I became a CHL instructor was because of a conversation I heard during my first renewal class. An elderly gentleman asked the instructor, "I live in a nice neighborhood. My wife and I go walking nearly every evening. Do you think I should take my gun with me?"
Incredibly, the instructor replied, "Well, that's a personal decision that you will have to make for yourself."
I wanted to scream, "Of course, you should! There are no safe places!" In fact, I was so stunned at the stupid answer that I didn't say what I was thinking. I still feel guilty about not speaking up. However, I do speak up now. Throughout the classes that I teach I use examples, many of actual shootings, to show the need to carry all the time. One such example is an appeal to logic. I ask the students if you could turn off and on your fire insurance at will, would you ever turn it off because there was little chance of a fire on a particular day? Of course, you wouldn't! But, that's exactly what you do if you decide to leave your home unarmed. You have chosen to let yourself be vulnerable to a mean world that can take you or your loved ones from this world for two dollars or for your tennis shoes.
There are no safe places! One woman who took my class has for many years worked as a contractor in federal housing, i.e. high crime areas. Unfortunately, her employer will not let her carry her gun in her car (she can't go in the federal buildings armed), but she has never needed a gun in those high crime areas. On the other hand, she has needed a gun for protection three times in "safe areas."
She started carrying a gun at seventeen because the police would not believe that she and her boyfriend had been robbed and that she had nearly raped (she said that she was in her menstrual period or she would have been raped). The police did not believe her because at that time there had never been any crime in the Fort Worth Botanical Gardens (this occurred in the 1960's). This "safe place" soon became a hot spot of rape and murder during the following year causing it to be fenced and closed at night. Fortunately, the gang of youths were caught and convicted of multiple rapes and murders.
Those of you who are instructors have probably had many stories of similar need for a gun for protection told by your clients. I use real life stories as much as I can, but I am still frustrated at how many people have the "it won't happen to me attitude" and don't carry all the time. I have finally decided that few people really take to heart my cajoling and warnings. Fortunately, many have, but I want to be even more effective in getting that point across since not only are they safer being armed, but we are too.
Since many of you who are reading this newsletter are instructors, I invite you to e-mail me if you have found effective methods to get the point across that it is important to be armed. Hopefully, there will be enough information that I can pass it on to others via this newsletter. If you have something that will help, please e-mail me at happydad1@sbcglobal.net. If I do write another article on that subject I will give you credit for your ideas.
I truly believe it is important for us to teach our clients and friends that CHL holders should be armed whenever possible and this safety advice is just as important to teach as it is for us to teach conflict resolution and the use of deadly force required by the state. I hope you agree. Be armed; be safe.
Don Myers
Texas Concealed Handgun License Instructor
North Richland Hills, TX 76180
Labels: CCW, Mindset, Mortal Decisions
10 Comments:
Xavier may I use this post on my blog? Not the first nor the last writeup that I have seen of this nature, but damn. Might make someone think ahead and potentially save their life.
Thank you for posting this article.
It is essential that information of this kind is kept alive and passed around.
California is one large and extremely influential state that still denies our right to "shall issue" CCW.
It is crucial in our struggle out here to be able to send out links to stories like this on your blog (and other sites) so that people here in CA can see that the policies in CA are not representative of the rest of the United States of America--and that CA's laws and policies can and should be changed to reflect the individual rights recognized in other states.
Keep up the good work, Xavier.
Don's email is happydad1@sbcglobal.net if you want to ask permission of him.
We wear seat belts because we cannot choose when we are going to be the victim of someone else's careless driving.
Insightful and important to remember. Linked.
how would a gun have helped him and his friend?
beth said...
how would a gun have helped him and his friend?
I do not know the exact details of the entire encounter, but here is what Xavier's initial post says regarding it:
In Garland, in the early morning of June 19, the two encountered Matthew Butler and Stephen Swan who were leaving Zion Gate Records, a Christian music studio which Butler owned, at 810 State Street. The four men conversed for a while. The men parted, and then Cummings went back with Broadnax and asked for a cigarette. Suddenly, Broadnax pulled his gun. Without hesitation he shot Swann, then Butler. As each man struggled to get back up, Broadnax shot them again, this time in the head, killing them.
Granted, the gun would not have helped with the initial shots- definitely the mindset of both would have done more. But, depending upon Swan's proficiency, he could have brought it up in time to fire first. Again-- I cannot know.
But, after each man was on the ground, rather than only having the option to crawl for their lives, Swan would have had the option to fight from where he was- something nothing less than a gun would have enabled him to do. Shots fired back -even misses from a wounded individual- could have made the attackers give up and escape, or, direct hits could have stopped the thugs, enabling Swan and/or his partner to phone for assistance.
Again, exact details of how it went down - I cannot know - and do we really know since the only witnesses are those who committed the offense?
There are a lot of ifs, maybes, and might-haves attached to whethere Swan had his gun that day, but we know for absolute certain the outcome of its absence in the presence of the killers.
To the question of 'what would having a gun have done for the victim?'
First and foremost: the weight on his hip might have reminded him to stay in Condition Yellow, not laps into White. That alone might have prevented the whole thing from happening.
Its a 'might' not a sure thing, but not having a gun will leave you at the mercy of those who do. Having a gun gives you a chance.
Xavier: thanks for the update on this story.
AE
I'm an instructor myself, but I devote my time to a charity self defense course for violent crime survivors. For some reason, I don't have to try and convince my students that they should go armed as often as is legally possible.
So far as whether or not it would have made a difference if one of the victims of this particular shooting was armed, I like to say that the only thing having a gun with you does if attacked is give you a chance.
Would it have made a difference if one of the victims was armed? Silly question. They certainly had no chance while unarmed.
James
You would be shocked to know how many people I pull over everyday who hand me a drivers license and a concealed handgun license and when I ask them if they are carrying they tell me no sir. My reply is always, "why?...your gun does you no good at home". People the police can not and will not always be there to help you. Like the saying goes, we are only minutes away when seconds count. Carry your gun when legal.
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